WE ALL JUDGE. There I said it. Within a few seconds of seeing someone we decide numerous things about them, from how smart they are, to how likely they are to commit a crime.
Sometimes our first impressions can be surprisingly accurate in others they can be a bit off base, but as uncomfortable as it may be, we are under the microscope every day.
You dress and groom your body so you alone are in charge of how you appear to observers. That’s great power and you know what comes with great power? Great responsibility!
So, you don’t care what other people think of you? Well here’s the thing: You’ve got to get dressed anyway (unless you’re part of some nudist community somewhere), so why not take the opportunity to tell people more about your fabulous self through the clothes that you wear!
1. If you look good, you feel good!
Research has proven this time and time again: if you look good on the outside, you will feel good on the inside. When you put effort into your appearance you are more likely to receive compliments and that builds self-image.
2. I love myself!
Self-love starts with self-care. It’s simple: If you take care of yourself you are less likely to eat crap, hide from mirrors and trash talk your body, you know the drill…
Taking care of yourself kick-starts a positive cycle of self-love. Clothes are a means to an end: the end being you and everything you have to offer.
And what’s the secret to pulling off just about any outfit? Confidence and a smile!
3. Hello good-looking!
When you dress in a certain way it helps shift your internal self. Dress not how you feel but how you want to feel.
Science says there is such a thing as happy clothes! According to researchers denim and anything baggy is the preferred choice for depressed people.
The lesson: Glam up although you feel down! Step away from your (favourite) yoga pants!
4. Show me the money!
According to a study waitresses wearing red lipstick were tipped 50 percent of the time by male customers, while their counterparts with brown, pink or no lipstick received tips only 33 percent of the time.
Imagine what a red lip can do in your work environment?!
Social psychologists refer to the “halo effect,” we tend to assume that good-looking people possess other positive qualities aside from their looks, such as intelligence and commitment. I don’t know about you but I would like it, if people perceive me as an intelligent and committed human being.
That’s great but what if you are not one of THOSE people? A Fashion blogger or a Pinterest picture of perfection? Just your normal average looking Mama with body parts you like and parts you hate.
According to a recent study by Dove “Women hate their body more than ever before… “So next time when you look at a pretty girl, and start shaming yourself (And that pack of cheese curls you munched last night), think about the FACT that she’s also not (that) happy with herself.
But what are we to do in this crazy hectic world, where you are judged, whether you like it or not, on your appearance and the fact that that judgement can determine your next promotion, pay check or inner-happiness?
The answer: Take care of yourself and dress up.
Translation: Take a shower, braid your hair and put on something that fits you! I know (from personal experience) that for most of us Mamas, taking a shower is the new “getting ready,” but it really does only take 7 minutes to put on some base, blusher, mascara and a red lip. You don’t need hours of contouring or perfecting eyeshadow!
Read my guest blog at SA Mom blogs for some great tips to quickly Style it Like a Mother!
After reading the above blog, the grooming part is taken care of, but now you’ve got the “I’ve got nothing to wear” scenario…
If you are really struggling to find something to wear it’s time to get in touch with a personal stylist!
There are 3 groups of people:
Knows what a stylist/image consultant is, wishes they had one, but sees them as people that only celebrities work with (no way that I can afford a personal stylist)!
Has no idea what a stylist is!
Has worked with a stylist and have now been converted to the “what would I do without my stylist!” group.
Being a qualified personal stylist, I still get a kick out of helping people dress better.
I love seeing how their face lifts up when they wear the right length and they “realise” my legs weren’t that bad after all, or “Hey, I actually can wear this new off-shoulder trend! Or even better, that flabby part (after a caesarean) can be hidden away – in a stylish way!
When I shop with a client I’m not going for the Hannon Makeover look. Sorry! I’m just looking for clothes that flatter your unique body shape – put simply: clothes that show of your best parts and hide the parts that you’re not that chuffed about.
Looking great without the grilling workout plan, restrictive diet and nip/tuck.
I’m just unearthing your personal style that’s true to you – yes you!
Whether you’re a bride to be stuck in a rut…
Doesn’t matter what birthday is coming up…
You can LEARN to flatter your figure!
Want to book a spot? Still not sure?
E-mail: email@example.com for (well obviously) more info!
R250 per hour (see not expensive)!
*Sessions available in Nelspruit and Pretoria.
Stay Stylish (and let the shopping begin)!